Tried & Tasted: Cheat’s Spicy Fish Custards

Cooking for three people can get unnecessarily tiresome when I don’t eat meat, my husband expects a surprise every now and again, and our helper craves rice at every meal (even breakfast). No complaints though as she’s happy with the simple fare of her Yangon home eg roselle leaves fried with garlic/onion/chilli.

To add to this I’m too lazy for anything fiddly except when my son and his fiancée drop by for Sunday dinner, and even then, I opt for a stew, roast, or some other one-dish meal like Vietnamese rice paper rolls or sweet & sour pork.

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I blame my lethargy on the haze and humidity. Was it this hot when I was growing up in the 1960s? I cannot remember but most likely not. Back then, the Singapore population was just over 1.6 million against today’s 5.5 million plus we have global warming, not helped by the raging forest fires nearby.

But I digress from my fish custard. The preamble is to explain why I have dishonoured my Nonya heritage by forgoing the traditional coconut or banana leaf wraps. My late grandmother had a sense of humour. She would have twisted my ear and laughed at my shameful attempt to recreate otak-otak (puhlease, we don’t say otah) by using (horrors!) frozen white fish and dumping the ingredients in a baking dish.

My husband who doesn’t know any better, said it was good. Phew! And actually, it tasted fine especially as I didn’t flake the fish. Leaving it in cubes gave the dish more texture. This no-fuss casserole-style dish is an easy way to enjoy fish with the appetising aroma of blended herbs and spices and a hint of banana leaf from the liner.

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Ground spices for frying


500g white fish fillets (If using frozen fish, thaw and drain off water. Pat dry with paper towels)

3 tablespoons vegetable oil

1 cup coconut cream

1 egg, lightly beaten

1 teaspoon salt

4 tablespoons grated palm sugar

8 kaffir lime leaves (daun limau perut)

Spice mix

10-20 dried chillies, soaked in warm water for 20 minutes

1 thumb-sized knob of galangal or 3 teaspoons galangal powder

¾ teaspoon turmeric powder

1 tablespoon coriander powder

1 stalk lemon grass

4 candlenuts or macadamia nuts

1 generous tablespoon prawn paste (belacan)

1 big or 2 medium-sized onions


  1. Cube fish. Chop up if you like it fine. Set aside.
  2. Prep ingredients for grinding by skinning galangal if using fresh root, peel and slice onions, use white bulbous base of lemon grass (about 5cm) and throw the hard root end away. Slice galangal and lemon grass or you’ll get a ‘hairy’ mix after blending.
  3. Grind candlenuts, chillies, and lemon grass. When it’s fairly fine, add onions, prawn paste and powdered spices.
  4. Heat a pan and fry the ground paste in about 3 tablespoons oil till fragrant and glistening.
  5. Turn down heat, add coconut cream and give it a good stir to mix well. Take off the heat and when cool, mix the egg in.
  6. Throw away the hard vein of the kaffir lime leaves, and slice leaves into fine strips.
  7. Mix sugar and salt into spice mix and fish along with a sprinkling of kaffir lime leaves.
  8. Line a baking dish with a banana leaf (scald in hot water first) and fill with fish mixture. Pour enough hot water into the baking tray to reach half way up the dish. Bake for 25 minutes in a pre-heated oven (175˚C).

Note: If using frozen fish, the custard might be a little watery. Gently tip the dish and drain off as much liquid as you can without breaking up the custard. It will dry up as it cools. Or be a purist and use fresh fish – Spanish mackerel (tenggiri) is the usual choice. But taste-wise, frozen works fine when you have a craving for otak and it’s all you have.

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While I was in the mood for fish custard, I decided to make some Hor Mok (the Thai equivalent) in the same lackadaisical way – after all, how much lower could I go? So, I dispensed with the delicate banana leaf cups and slapped everything into another dish for steaming. Again, it’s not as pretty but it makes a dang good side dish without having to cut banana leaves and pin with toothpicks. Just don’t serve it to Thais or fussy bibiks.

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Looks strange, but tastes fine. Presentation needs improvement.

The recipe is slightly modified from Rachel Cooks Thai –

2 medium fillets of a white fish, cubed

Cabbage, shredded

2 Tablespoons red curry paste

1 egg

½ cup coconut milk, chilled

1 teaspoon palm sugar

1 Tablespoon fish sauce

½ cup Thai basil leaves

6 kaffir lime leaves, sliced thinly

1 red chilli padi, sliced thinly

¼ cup coconut cream, for topping

1 Tablespoon rice flour

banana leaves and toothpicks (if you choose to be traditional) or just banana leaf for lining the container


To make banana leaf cups, refer to the step-by-step guide at

  1. Mix the red curry paste, egg, palm sugar, and fish sauce to make a paste. (Rachel blends half the fish, but I didn’t bother to.)
  2. Add the coconut cream and most of the thinly sliced kaffir lime leaves, saving some for the topping. Mix well.
  3. Line your container with a banana leaf, and cover the base with a bed of shredded cabbage and Thai basil leaves. Add the fish cubes and then the custard.
  4. Mix ¼ cup of coconut cream with one tablespoon of rice flour until smooth. Place a spoonful of this thickened cream on the fish custard and sprinkle with the thinly sliced chilli and kaffir lime leaves. (I used just a small dollop, so the custard can be seen, but you’re meant to spread it all over)
  5. Steam for approximately 15 minutes, or until the fish is cooked through. Wrap the pot cover in a tea towel to stop water from dripping and pockmarking the custard.

Ridiculous, Period

If you’re Asian, you would have grown up with an aversion to walking under other people’s underwear (hard to avoid in cities where laundry hangs on bamboo poles from high-rise apartments).


You don’t want water from underpants (even when they’re washed) dripping on your head – yech, bad luck! But even more importantly, you must steer clear of women’s underthings because women menstruate, and that’s super ‘unclean’.


This notion of menstruation being dirty and henceforth sullying all women from puberty to menopause is a part of Asian culture. There are so many taboos surrounding the monthly cycle that women in the old days must have been handicapped for a week of every month.


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My mother used to say that when your “friend” visits, women should not touch auspicious plants like the pomegranate, or make certain traditional cakes. The result would be a withered plant and a ruined cake. It sounded like menstruating women turned radioactive.


Male family members were especially protected against the taint of women’s blood. It wasn’t so bad for us in Singapore, but in some places, superstition and even religious beliefs led to poor hygiene as women tried not to dirty or contaminate communal wash areas.


“According to WaterAid, women and girls in some South Asian communities, for instance, are not allowed to use water sources during menstruation and nearly 20% of those interviewed refrained from using latrines during their periods despite having access to them – See more at:


Of course, this seemingly imbecilic taboo must have been created by men as elders, priests and all leaders were mostly male in ancient times. But are there valid reasons, and why do even New Age practitioners advise women not to carry out sacred rituals while menstruating?


Finally, an acceptable explanation when I chanced on an old book in my collection.  Published in 1996 (Piatkus), from Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui by Karen Kingston, here’s an excerpt:


It is best not to do Space Clearing if you are pregnant, menstruating or have an open flesh wound


Let me say straight away that this is nothing to do with women having ‘the curse’, or anything like that. It is because of the blood element, which can apply to both men and women alike.


In many religions, women are not allowed into temples when they are menstruating. Feminists get indignant at this, but perhaps they wouldn’t if they really understood the underlying reasons. In Bali, it is not just menstruating women who are not allowed into temples but anyone who is bleeding in any way at all.


One reason is that blood attracts lower levels of entities, and they don’t want those entities in the temple because they want to keep it as clean and pure as possible. Western studies of groups of people who go into jungles or into places far from civilization have shown that if ever they are set upon by wild animals, it is the menstruating women they go for first, and their second choice is anyone with an open flesh wound! Exactly the same thing happens in the realms of energy where lower levels of entities are concerned.


Another absolutely different reason why menstruating women in particular are not allowed into temples is because they are not able to handle the high levels of energy in temples while their bodies are involved in the monthly process of internal cleansing. All their energies are turned inwards, and this is a time when their life force is at its lowest ebb. Women lose life-force energy through menstruation in the same way that men lose it through their ejaculation.


Space Clearing is about cleansing externally, and women are not equipped to do this so well at the time of the month they are doing their own internal electromagnetic cleansing. I used to sometimes do Space Clearing when I had my period but I found I got a lesser result and I felt more exhausted afterwards. Nowadays I never do Space Clearing when I have my period, and I certainly wouldn’t do a full-scale consecration ceremony while menstruating.


Similarly, during pregnancy, a woman’s energies are turned inwards because they are in the process of building and nourishing a new life inside. Also, everything that happens to the mother is transmitted directly to the sensitive foetus inside her.


To protect the child and nourish the mother, pregnancy is a time for a woman to have her partner do Space Clearing for her. In ancient cultures women would go into ‘confinement’ during the time they were pregnant, which was for the entire gestation period, not just for the few hours while they were in labour (or for Asians, for a month after delivery).


From the time they conceived they would live in the elevated atmosphere of a specially created place apart from other members of the tribe, to give that new life the best possible opportunity. They knew that the most formative time in a person’s life was the time spent in the womb.


Note: Karen Kingston is updating her book.

“My first book, Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui, has sold over a million copies in 16 languages. There have been so many developments in my space clearing work since then that I am now writing a completely new book that will replace it.”

For information, visit

Smoke gets in your rice

Yup, it’s looking far too foggy for the tropics and if you equate fog with cool, then, we must be in hell because it’s smokin’ hot in our part of the world. Our big neighbour will say we should be thankful we smell ash, not sulphur and truly, we feel sorrier for their hapless citizens nearer the forest fires who have to endure PSI levels of 1,000. Too bad the smoke isn’t reaching the mighty ones in their seat of power who’ve been snorting that their long-suffering neighbours should quit complaining.

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Since we’ve been warned that the smoke screen will linger till late November, let’s put on our happy face and sing a ditty.

(sung to the tune of Happy days are here again)

Hazy days are here again

The skies above are gray again

So, let’s don our masks before we tear again

Hazy times

Hazy days

Hazy nights

Are here again!

For our fragile constitutions, we can make sweet soups to stay hydrated and soothe dry throats. Lotus root is believed to strengthen the lungs, white fungus too is good for the lungs and immune system plus the collagen is a beauty aid, red dates are a tonic for the blood and so on. But what’s most important is that these traditional desserts are a taste treat especially on hot, hazy days.

 Sweet soups - lotus root

Lotus Root with Red Dates

Serves 3

250g lotus root

16 deseeded red dates, washed

60g rock sugar or more, to taste


1 Scrape mud off lotus root, brush and rinse thoroughly. Peel and cut into 2cm thick slices. Quarter each slice. Soak in lightly salted water for a few minutes. Rinse well before use.

  1. Fill a pot with 5 cups of water and add the cubed lotus root. Cover pot and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to medium, simmer for one hour.
  1. Add rock sugar and red dates. Continue to simmer, covered for another 45 minutes or until lotus root is tender.

(Check water level now and again. Add another cup of water if necessary)

  1. Serve hot, warm or chilled.

For slow cooker: Transfer lotus root cubes into a medium-sized crock pot once water begins to boil. Leave to cook on high for ½ hour. Add rock sugar and red dates. Reduce heat of crock pot to medium and leave to simmer for 3 hours.

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Five Blessings Soup

Serves 4

20 red dates, deseeded and washed

500g dried lily flowers

1 pack peeled ginkgo nuts

1 pack fresh lotus seeds

40g dried longan pulp

100g rock sugar


  1. Soak dried lily flowers in a bowl of water for at least 2 hours. Rinse before use.
  2. Put ginkgo nuts and 8 cups of water in a pot. Cover and bring to a rolling boil. Lower heat, and simmer for 20 minutes.
  3. Add soaked lily flowers, lotus seeds and red dates. Cover pot and leave to simmer for another ½ hour.
  4. Add rock sugar and longan pulp. Continue to simmer for ½ hour.
  5. Serve hot, warm or chilled as a snack or for breakfast.

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White Fungus and Ginseng

Serves 3

30g white fungus

1 teaspoon thinly sliced American ginseng

1 tablespoon red medlar seeds rinse before use

50g rock sugar or more to taste


  1. Soak white fungus in warm water for at least 30 minutes or until very puffy.
  2. Combine 4 cups of water and softened white fungus in a small tall pot. Cover and bring to a rolling boil. Reduce heat to medium and continue to simmer for 45 minutes.
  3. Add rock sugar, ginseng slices and red medlar seeds.
  4. Continue to simmer for another ½ hour. Serve hot or chilled.

Sweet soups - multigrains

Sweet Multi-Grains

Serves 3

½ cup multi-grains (a combination of rolled and pearl barley, unpolished rice, fox nuts, etc available ready-packed at FairPrice supermarkets – rice section)

2-3 pandan leaves

12 red dates, deseeded and washed

30g dried longan pulp

100g rock sugar


  1. Wash pandan leaves and knot.
  2. Wash and strain multi-grains like washing rice. Soak in 2 cups of water for ½ hour to reduce cooking time – don’t throw out the water.
  3. Put in a pot the knotted pandan leaves, multi-grains with the soaking water and another 5 cups of water. Cover and bring to a boil. Lower heat and leave to simmer for ½ hour.
  4. Add rock sugar, red dates and longan pulp. Cover pot and continue to simmer for 30 minutes. Serve hot or chilled.

Back in action – DIY pain relief

In early July I was bothered by an ache in the back and arm as if I had slept awkwardly. A well-meaning friend took me for tuina (Traditional Chinese Medicine style) massage.

The pain worsened. It got so bad that I had to spend most of the day lying down. I suspect the tuina pummelling exacerbated the problem. Besides excruciating achiness, there was tingling in my forearm all the way down to the fingers. It felt like backache coupled with repetitive stress injury (RSI) as I knew the signs – pain, numbness and weakness.

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But it wasn’t bad enough to alarm the doctor at the polyclinic. An x ray showed bone spurs in the neck but for a look at nerves and muscles I would need an MRI. I left with a bag of painkillers which, by the way, didn’t provide much relief.

Well, here I was unable to sit, stand, or sleep properly and feeling for the most part like a wretched invalid. When I was cheerfully told over the phone that my orthopaedic appointment was in October, I quietly freaked out. Sorry, the voice nonchalantly said. No earlier slot is available. Obviously, Singaporeans are falling apart, so deal with it.


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If something like this befalls you, doing as I did might help. Certainly, it’s better than enduring the agony while contemplating a lifetime of disability.

I immediately looked for a Chinese physician because the next best thing was acupuncture. Friends said I could have a slipped disc and/or a pinched nerve, and many had had spinal troubles. I never realised that back problems were as common as women in heels.

It took three acupuncture + cupping sessions before I felt better. Pain relief was maybe 50 per cent but the tingling remained. If you’ve not tried acupuncture, don’t underrate it. Placing needles in the right spots open the meridians and hasten self-healing. With each needle she tapped in, the physician would ask, “Can you feel it?”

The feeling is a satisfying sharp discomfort translated as various degrees of “ouch!”. “No pain, no gain,” the physician gleefully declared as she twiddled the needles after 10 minutes for more ouch. I like acupuncture but cupping is horrid.


back acupuncture

After the fifth acupuncture session in three weeks, I knew I had hit a plateau. Plus, it was costing too much, so I decided to find ways to help myself.

The internet to the rescue. I have Gary Crowley – to thank for self-massage so easy I was initially sceptical it would work.

Image: Gary Crowley

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He has techniques for relieving all joint and muscle pains, so there’ll surely be something you can use. He helps you track the source of your pain. If you can fix the trouble spot, it’s likely the downstream pain will disappear.



For the out-of-reach parts, he suggests using a tennis ball in a sock against a wall. What I found even better was a dog’s ball-on-a-rope. It’s better than the sock which tends to stretch. I even tried the common Asian massage ball on a stick. It provides temporary relief when pounding stiff muscles but for pressure, the rubber ball is too small.

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As October approaches, I am in two minds whether to cancel my orthopaedic appointment. I am mostly better except for the occasional twinge when I overstretch myself. It seems a waste of time to be examined and advised to improve my posture (the real cause of my woes). However, a kiasu friend says I should go in case I have other undiscovered problems (aargh! What a terrifyiing thought).

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In the meantime, I shall start practising yoga in a chair – and continuing Doctor Jo’s stretches –

Tried & Tasted: Souffle Cheesecake

My first attempt deflated as soon as it cooled. Visually, it was unappealing and I had to eat it with a spoon. But it tasted so good, I had to give it another try. How can cream cheese, white chocolate and egg not combine into a yummy whatchamacallit? Plus, all you need are three ingredients!

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After a few days of mulling over what I did wrong, I figured it wasn’t dry enough. Duh! It might seem obvious but the top was a pretty golden colour and it passed the skewer test. My mistake was covering the cake with a small sheet of foil to prevent burning. I removed the foil after 30 minutes and left the cake to sit in the residual heat, but it never recovered. It just shrank into a sticky pudding.

This time around, I extended baking time by 10 minutes and left it uncovered. The following recipe from cute Japanese blogger, Ochikeron is foolproof. What is absolutely necessary is speed when folding in stiff egg whites. And okay, I cheated by adding ¼ teaspoon cream of tartar to help hold the whites. Get enthused by the Ochikeron video at

Deliciously light and airy, it’s easy to polish off this delicate cake in one sitting, so make two if you’re having friends for tea.

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As the cake cools, it shrinks from the sides and wrinkles a bit.

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3 eggs (large)

120g white chocolate (I used white chocolate couverture droplets)

120g cream cheese


  1. Separate eggs. Refrigerate whites till ready to use.
  2. Preheat oven to 170˚C.
  3. Melt chocolate in a bowl over hot water. Mix till smooth.
  4. Whisk egg whites till firm. (If using cream of tartar, add when whites are foamy but not yet peaking)
  5. Add cream cheese to melted chocolate, stirring to mix well.
  6. Remove bowl from hot water, add yolks and mix.
  7. Fold in half meringue and then the other half.
  8. Brush oil on parchment paper for lining cake tin so rising cake can slide down without cracking. (I only lined the pan base with parchment paper. The sides, I oiled with cooking spray)
  9. Pour batter into lined tin. Drop the tin on the table gently a couple of times to clear away air bubbles. Place on baking tray and pour hot water in tray.
  10. Bake at 170˚C for 15 minutes (20 minutes), then 160 ˚C for 15 minutes (20 minutes), and finally turn off heat and leave cake for another 15 minutes.
  11. Cool and dust with sugar powder. (As you can see, I forgot to do so!)

Chinese pork jerky treat for dogs

The dogs surround me when I make Chinese pork jerky (bak kwa), shoving each other out of the way, so I can see their “Gimme, gimme, pleeese” expressions. They always get some but I figured I should make the doggy version a little healthier.

I can’t do away with the sugar and honey as the beauty of bak kwa is the caramelised flavour, but I can tweak the amount of sugar and cut back on sodium. It’s still not a treat dogs should eat every day, but it can’t be unhealthier than pet shop treats that come from dubious sources. At least I know my pork jerky has no preservatives and is made with love.

I hear that commercial bak kwa is made with as much as 30% fat, so it stays springy. I prefer to keep within the 10% fat limit for a chewier texture. This means watching grilling time as the protein can turn too hard.

The bak kwa recipe that everyone seems to follow is from Sonia, nasi lemak lover. It’s an excellent can’t-go-wrong recipe – thank you Sonia!! For the people version, visit

Can you resist this? I can because I don’t eat meat, but it’s enough to start my carnivore friends drooling.

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Here’s Sonia’s recipe, but customised for dogs.

1 kg minced pork (with at least 10% fat)
120 g sugar (brown sugar will do fine)
2 tablespoons light soy sauce
½ tablespoon Chinese rice wine
1 tablespoon fish sauce

2 tablespoons sesame oil
1 teaspoon dark caramel soy sauce or kicap manis
A generous sprinkle of Chinese five spice powder
A dash of Pepper
3 tablespoons honey

1. Put all ingredients in a big bowl and mix with a pair of chopsticks or your hand. Keep turning and stirring the mixture in one direction until the meat feels gluey. Refrigerate for several hours or overnight.
2. Line a baking tray with aluminium foil (for easy clean-up) and spread enough minced pork to make a thin layer. Use your fingers to press and a small rolling pin to smoothen the top.
3. Bake in a pre-heated oven at 160˚C for 15-20mins. Remove from oven. Increase the oven temperature to 240˚C.
4. When cool enough to handle, cut into small squares with kitchen scissors or pizza cutter (I prefer scissors so as not to damage the foil) and arrange (bottom-side up) on the same baking tray.  If there’s any marinade in the tray, brush this on the jerky squares.
5. Grill (top heat only) at 240˚C for 10 mins. People who like charred edges can flip the pieces and continue grilling for another 7 minutes. Not necessary when cooking for dogs.

4. When cool enough to handle, cut into small squares with kitchen scissors or pizza cutter (I prefer scissors so as not to damage the foil) and arrange (bottom-side up) on the same baking tray.  If there’s any marinade in the tray, brush this on the jerky squares.
5. Grill (top heat only) at 240˚C for 10mins. People who like charred edges can flip the pieces and continue grilling for another 7 minutes. Not necessary for dogs.

Tried & Tasted: Mango Yogurt Chiffon Cake

Still on a chiffon cake binge, I couldn’t resist a mango-flavoured cake. This was tasted some weeks ago, but a pinched nerve in my back/neck has kept me laid up in various stages of pain and away from kitchen and keyboard.

Compared with the Red Velvet Chiffon Cake, the Mango Yogurt takes less effort because there’s no heating of ingredients required. It’s also sweeter (and tastier), so I will add sugar when I next make the Red Velvet again. However, despite my finding the Mango Yogurt sweet enough, a friend said he slathered it with kaya (coconut-egg custard) because my cakes are too healthy (huh?) for him.

Thanks to Diana Gale, aka the domestic goddess wannabe for this recipe. I used Marigold Yogurt Drink but after baking the mango scent is barely discernible, so I suggest adding some mango essence. It’s really quick to make when you expect friends for a spot of tea, and light enough for the weight-conscious.

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Mango Yogurt Chiffon Cake


6 egg yolks

50g caster sugar

70g oil – I used canola oil

100g cake flour

1/2 teaspoon baking powder

1/4 teaspoon salt

85ml mango yogurt drink

For the meringue

6 egg whites

¼ teaspoon cream of tartar

70g caster sugar


  1. In a mixing bowl, beat together the yolks and sugar until light and fluffy.
  2. Add the oil and continue beating. The mixture will get a tad paler.
  3. Add the mango yogurt drink and mix to combine.
  4. Add the flour and mix until the flour is just incorporated. Scrape the bowl, mix one final time and set this aside.
  5. In another clean mixing bowl, whisk the egg whites until they turn foamy.
  6. Add the cream of tartar and whisk until soft peaks form.
  7. Gradually add the sugar and whisk until stiff peaks form.
  8. Transfer one-third of the meringue into the egg yolk mixture. Beat it in. This stabilizes the mixture.
  9. Gently fold in the remaining meringue in two batches.
  10. Once no white streaks remain, pour the batter into an UNGREASED 23cm tube pan. (Click here for conversion guide for other tube pan sizes – convert the ingredients accordingly using the number of eggs as a guideline.)
  11. Lift the pan about 20cm off the table top. Drop it vertically on the table to remove any larger air bubbles. Repeat twice.
  12. Bake at 160°C for 50-60 minutes. If the top gets too brown, cover with a piece of aluminium foil. Alternatively, you can lower the temperature of the oven.
  13. Once the cake is done, invert it immediately and cool on a wire rack. Do not unmold the cake until it has cooled completely.

Tried & Tasted: Red velvet chiffon cake

I can’t resist any chiffon cake. They’re so airy and insubstantial I don’t feel guilty about polishing off a couple of large pieces. It’s like eating coloured clouds.

But I don’t really like cakes made with cooking oil as I love butter. So, when Sharon Chan shared her Red Velvet Chiffon Cake recipe with The Straits Times, I pounced on it with glee as she uses melted butter in place of the usual oil.

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Any cake I can manage to turn out should be manageable for almost anyone as my baking skills are minimal. I see myself as the one who puts the idiot-proof stamp on recipes, so if you’re a kitchen newbie, step this way.

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Compared with Sharon’s cake, mine is a pink-brown rather than red, but it tastes good and is moist. For the recipe go to the link:

To pretty it up and add flavour, try coating this cake with whipped cream or a cream cheese frosting.

PS – I cheated and used ¼ teaspoon of cream of tartar to help the egg whites fluff up as my first attempt resulted in a slightly heavier cake. This time I decided to split the batter into two small pans – a good size to take to work. You know how everyone always says, “just a small piece” when you offer them cake – well, this is small!

Game over

I can’t bear to continue watching Game of Thrones. In the months between the end of Season 5 and the beginning of Season 6, I might very well change my mind, but as Oliver Griffin comments in The Independent – what is the point?

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GRR Martin (grr indeed) is a sadist. I am exhausted with tears unshed for the honourable characters (beginning with Ned Stark) who met gruesome ends. And horrible Joffrey had too easy a death. Some painful vomiting before conking out is no worse than a severe bout of food poisoning. I’ve been there. I felt like dying the last time I hurled my guts out. My spasms left me doubled up in agony for several hours. Joffrey was gone in minutes. Now, is that fair?


Jaime & Tyrion

I have no sympathy for Cersei. She can dry out in the dungeon for all I care. But I was hanging on for Jon Snow. And dear Sam. I’m still rooting for Tyrion, the Lannister who drew the short straw, and Jaime has become a bit of alright. Drogon the dragon? Absolute darling!

In Westeros, decency is such a rare commodity that the slightest display of kindness stands out. Of course, in the GoT world of psychopaths and sociopaths, this is a weakness likely to earn, not a reward, but an unpleasant death.

I got more satisfaction watching Jurassic World. It was rather predictable but the raptors were cute, and the human who deserved to be eaten got his just desserts, or rather the dinosaur did.



Okay, so it’s unreal but I try not to watch art movies because the story lines cut too close to the bone. If I want like-real tragedy and misery, I just catch the news. Life is hard enough. Give us justice and something to live for. GoT is full of fabulous characters and the story is riveting, but is it too much to ask for Ramsay to be castrated (slowly) and then given a lobotomy? For Sansa to find true love?

Gimme hope, GRR Martin, Gimme hope … (with apologies to Eddy Grant).

Grab a crab

What stops me from going totally vegetarian is my love of eggs and shellfish. That said, I can’t kill my food, so either I buy dead shellfish or do the hypocritical thing and let other people kill them i.e. eat in restaurants.

No problem with prawns which can be bought dead, but to avoid contamination crabs and lobsters need to be alive just before they are cooked. Result: I never buy crabs. Anything breathing that comes into my home will be given a name and allowed to live out its natural life. Imagine George and Daisy, the Sri Lankan crabs scuttling around the backyard, waving their pincers menacingly at our stalking dogs. Someone will get nipped, and it’s 3-1 in the crabs’ favour.

My friend Devagi Sanmugam recently posted a recipe for garlic-pepper crabs which got me drooling. Butter crab, chilli crab, baked crab, curry crab, fried soft-shell crabs….love ‘em all!

There is no kind way to kill anything. If you must have your crab and eat it, the old-fashioned method is as good as any – Asian mothers use a chopstick to skewer the crab through the tapered flap on the underside. Devagi tells me she simply pops the crab in the freezer and leaves it to die of hypothermia. The biting cold will probably put it to sleep, so maybe it’s less painful than being stabbed to death. For a quick kill, refer to

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Your mouth watering? Here is Devagi’s recipe – Unless it’s hanging on to my toe, nothing will induce me to kill a crab, so I will have to drool on.




Oil for deep frying

1 ½ kg mud crabs or crayfish, cleaned, washed and halved



100 g Q.B.B. Pure Ghee

2 green chillies, seeded and very finely sliced (optional)

10 cloves garlic, finely chopped

3 cm ginger, finely chopped

2 tablespoons oyster sauce

2 tablespoons light soy sauce

2 teaspoons dark soy sauce

1 tablespoon sugar

3 tablespoons black peppercorns, crushed coarsely

100 ml chicken stock or water


  1. Heat oil until very hot (preferably in a wok) and then deep fry the crabs or crayfish until the shell changes colour.
  2. Drain and keep aside.
  3. Melt the Q.B.B. Pure Ghee in a wok. Add in the chilli, garlic and ginger and sauté till aromatic – about 3 minutes.
  4. Add the oyster sauce, both soya sauces and sugar.
  5. Simmer for a few seconds and then add the black pepper.
  6. Continue cooking until the sauce thickens and then add the crabs or crayfish.
  7. Keep stirring until the crabs are well coated with the sauce and cook for another couple of minutes.
  8. Serve hot.